He is also continuing to call me his X and all his new friends don't even know that he is married. My local therapist told me to do more things for me and to ask 10 guys what his motivation is to calling me his X, denying my existence, but not yet filing papers even though I have told him I have let go. Thoughts guys?
thought I'd add HiC...if he called you anything else, then what would that mean? Suppose my W referred to me in this way, which I don't even know how she refers to me, just theorizing...if she started saying something to the contrary she would be telling the world a change of heart. So, I'd take it both ways as I've stated. 1) no other way to say it. 2) almost habit - I imagine they don't think much about saying it. Remember it's there choice, so they are probably not thinking about it at all when they say it. 3) saying something different would be telling the wrong people their change of heart - I'd just imagine the spouse would be the first to hear something like lets try...
