Welcome 1hope,

Like you, I am fairly new to this as well. I believe that my wife is having a MLC and I am also the fixer which makes this all the more difficult. I have even heard her say that I will find someone that will treat me better than she does (sure I could, but that isn't what I want).

I don't have much experience with C, but one possible explanation is that the treatment process might have taken such an emotional toll on him that he no longer sees the likely vibrant person prior to C but instead when he looks at you he might see the one suffering from the effects of Chemo. He probably also feels a lot of guilt for feeling this way and might feel you deserve better.

My W had a friend whos husband had a bout with C and she had similar feelings afterwards. She loved him but was no longer attracted to him because everytime she looks at him she sees the sick person in the hospital bed.

The only advice I would give (albiet I am very inexpereinced) would be to be the person you were before C took its toll, and don't talk about the R.

Best wishes


TwinDad
Me 39, W 36, M 11
W - MLC, WAW????
2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old
Start of the Long and Bumpy Road.....
On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning