Its been that way for a long time, him thinking the neighbors are 'lame' and boring, because no one will go out with him at night. He was ridiculous. I wanted to tell him today that he is a very unattractive person to me. Everything about him feels wrong.
My W is the same way, neighbor, mean old lady, but if you yell back at her she laughs, or ask her whats wrong, she opens up and lightens up. We lived next to her for 5 years now, W knows how she is, but W is not willing to make the effort, just assumes neighbor hates her. W makes no effort with any of the neighbors, I guess becasue she knows she is leaving, why be nice to people if you won't see them. (bad attitude)
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I was thinking to myself today, if I had the money, enough money, to get divorced and keep the house, would I file right now. My answer is YES.
I feel the same way, I'm done -same old complaints, its a lot nicer when she is gone and I don't have to deal with the hurt I feel from her running around behind my back, making up stuff like where she is going, etc. it gets old quick. I'm lucky, W leaving me and kids in our home, I don't think she will ever upset the kids home, she doesn't want to be here and she doesn't want to deal with the kids. She confuses me, she wants out, (signed lease on apartment) and has OM, will get a fulltime job to support herself, but doesn't want to Divorce me, She is treating this like a trial seperation, In my head its over becasue of OM,
I'm going to be happy, helpful, forgiving, patient and loving. Not just to W and kids, but to everyone I know and meet. This is me, this is how I want to live my life, this may not be the best course of action to save a marriage, but its the best way to live my life.
We all have a long haul ahead of us good or bad it's the path we choose thats important.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? let me hope !!! W moving out June 1st - 10 days - already signed lease
