[/quote]Does he have any artistic inclinations or interests? Would he consider dance, painting, writing, crafts? Maybe you can find poems that reflect your situation or feelings, and he would let you read it to him.[quote]
CL,
I find this one funny. H hates to read uinless it's a hunting magazine or the news paper. Detests dancing.(I love it). Can only draw or paint stick people so it is so much fun when we play pictionary. He does do wood work though. I don't know how he can express feeling through that so much.
I do feel that he might be to a point where he might feel talking in little increments or letter writing if he feels safe enough that I wont be on the defensive. I feel he is getting there as I have been trying to be understanding and really listen to what he is saying and respond without any anger or resentment. I think he is feeling more safe now. It took a while but just maybe he is going t be able to talk more. We will see. Or maybe Im'e living in LALA land and it's just one letter and he has no intention of talking.
I really don't feel worried about OW starting anything again. I feel that it is the fact that he can't release himself from her after it has been this long that upsets me. That tells me he still has a lot of work to do and that he just maybe putting it on the back burner hoping it will go away.
I keep getting knocked down and having to pick myself up and dust myself up. One of these times I feel im'e going to get knocked down and break both my legs!
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
