the only consilation is that he's telling you what he is feeling, which is a big plus.
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TAL, Yes it is a big thing for H he hates to talk so even to write a letter was huge and I consider it a big baby step.
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I don't know how long these things take as far as the mourning period of an A... I know you have been sticking it out a lot longer than you would like.
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>>I think everyone deals at there own pace so don't think I can put a timeline on it but, I know I can not stay like this with Three of us in the M forever.
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I do think that he has come a long way in some aspects of your stitch.
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>>Yes he has since the start. In the last year though we seem to be at a stalemate and I blame myself for this as I feel I have been going down those Cheeseless tunnels. I try to distance and detach more and I let H pull me right back in. I feel I am being to accessible.
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have you asked him about C or retro?
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>>I have asked him Twice and he said no both times. Won't even go to ths Dr.'s and ask for meds even though he said he was depressed.
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I know you will soon have a breaking point and maybe you need to relay that to him, that the waiting isn't going to be forever. Do you think maybe that would give him a jump start?? It seems he is being "lazy" about it, if im making any sense. that he knows you will still be here to wait, maybe he needs to here that you won't be.
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>>I have told him that I can not wait forever and that I would let him know if and when I could not. I don't know if I would so much call it lazy but, I do feel he thinks that if he pushes it under the rug it will eventually go away. I feel he might need to see that I won't be and Im'e trying to figure that out without separating first.
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I wish I could offer you better advice, I am here for you whenever you need me. hang in there.
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>>Thank You Friends!
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You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
