When I logged onto the web this morning, one of the headlines on the msn homepage says, "Donkey jailed for assault and battery in Mexico."
I immediately thought of J.A.!!!! LOL! He didn't make an unexpected trip to Mexico this week, did he?
No? Ah, well, at least we can all imagine it being our j.a. H's. Ha!
Hope it will bring you a smile---it just hit me for some reason and I couldn't stop giggling.
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
I had to give it up I had to because I couldn't do it alone
and that's the magic formula, we just cant CANT do it alone, the thing is you need to stop doubting God, he will pull you through this hell, no matter where you are and what you are going through, we make ourselves crazy thinking of how can we ever live happy again, or what is going to happen to us now, etc etc. God wants you to put your full trust in Him and just KNOW you will be ok no matter what.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
I had to give it up I had to because I couldn't do it alone
and that's the magic formula, we just cant CANT do it alone, the thing is you need to stop doubting God, he will pull you through this hell, no matter where you are and what you are going through, we make ourselves crazy thinking of how can we ever live happy again, or what is going to happen to us now, etc etc. God wants you to put your full trust in Him and just KNOW you will be ok no matter what.
Very well said Cat....and when we allow ourselves to trust HIM to be there by our side, and to BELIEVE that HE will do everything possible for us, THAT is when we start to learn and grow.
MrsH, I think many of us see so much potential in you as a woman, mother, friend, and person, yet, sometimes I feel that you yourself don't see it, don't feel it.
YOU are a a wonderful person, SHOW yourself to the people who matter most to you, love without being afraid, have joy without wondering about pain, just live and you will see how unimportant and trivial your H's actions are ! Truly !!!
I know he's a jerk first class, and I have been 'lucky' to have a 'nice MLC'er' but believe me, nice is also very painful, it keeps you in the HOPE corner...it makes everything good that happens, seem as if you will reconcile, and yet every time I got dissapointed and had to pick myself back up off the floor.
I have started seeing what I'm worth as a person, mother, friend, sister, daughter, person...and I like it, I like that people feel good when they see me, that I cheer them up, even though I have troubles of my own. I like that when I am down, my friends and family will be there, just as I am for them. I like that people have said to me, 'my goodness, I didn't even know about your situation, you have handled it so well and with such courage and bravery....' not because they only say nice things about me, but because now I know that I am that person, a person WORTHY of the compliments. And I feel that you are too, that you need to see that within you, because sweety, you have it in you !!
God Bless you !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
Apparently I have been getting screwed all along with the 2 lawyers I had.
Also the new law firm my current L works for are basically nothing but a bunch of crooks.
She wants me to interview a couple more lawyers before I make a decision with her because she said that is what I should do, same thing when you go for a second opinion like a doctor.
She says my lawyer has been misrepresenting me all along and she and my past lawyer have also been misinforming me.
She said she knows them and they are both nice people but they are not good divorce attorneys.
As soon as she asked me who my L was she looked at me and said "as soon as you said her name I realized why you have been getting screwed so far."
She told me that if she took over my case she would tell the judge that I have not been properly represented and would ask that the trial date be pushed ahead so we could have more time to prepare.
She also told me that I can withdraw my complaint of divorce and not give JA a divorce if I don't want it.
She said he would have to prove grounds against me which is very hard to do.
She said even if the judge grants him a divorce without facts backing him up I can appeal it and I would win.
She was surprised by the fact I have been turned down for moving. She did tell me that once a judge forms an opinion it is very hard to change their mind. She said the outlook of me moving is not very good, probably less then a 50 percent chance.
However, she said we can use divorce as a bargaining tool. If he wants the divorce, fine, but not unless I can move.
She has been practing as a full time divorce attorney for 24 years and has been quite successful. Her office shows it.
She said my L is not a good divorce lawyer at all. And that even if I don't retain her, I need to get a different lawyer.
So basically I have wasted about 20 thousand dollars so far in legal fees and I have gotten no where.
She gave me names of 4 other lawyers who she thinks are very good and she ranked them for me in order.
She also said that my lawyer was making promises to me that she shouldn't have because they were unrealistic.
I feel like I am back at square one and I am terribly depressed.
I have an appointment with one of the lawyers she recommended on Tuesday. Then I will make my decision.
It sounds like she has put you on the right path. She seems on the up and up,especially recommending you talk to others for a second opinion before you make a decision.
I bet when this is all over you will be in a new house in NJ near your family. This is my gut feeling.
There is a reason all this is happening the way it is...not sure WHY..maybe to make you stronger or something. All things happen for a reason and someday you will look back and realize what the reason was.
If you want to withdraw the D in order to help you move then I would do it. Can you imagine what JA and his L might do??
Yes, it is alot of money we are talking about, but you will be able to handle that. Going into debt is every Americans right, and this is a good time to do it. I do mean that sincerely.
Your jackasss has been treating you so wrong and it's time to put him into his place, in front of the cart carrying garbage!
Hopefully the new L may not charge as much since most of the work has been done......poorly yes, but the paperwork on JA's part has been submitted.
I wish you so much success in all your endeavors K !!
You've earned it.
It's your turn now.
Hugs,
Jeanette
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MrsH I don't post to you but I keep up with your thread. I saw that and I thought the same thing!
I do mean that sincerely.