SD: I hope you don't mind if I reply to C_K on your thread.
C_K:
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The times I miss my W with intensity have seemingly all but gone. I do strugle with that , i think I should still feel something , but those feelings are hard to find now. I do feel Guilty about that for some reason.
I went through that phase with The X. I felt guilty b/c my feelings changed.
A wise DB'er told me that it was a normal part of letting go. In fact, it is healthy for a self-respecting individual to start to feel less and less toward an X or STBX when that person displays an utter disregard for your own and your family's needs and boundaries. I have come to be believe that love really is not unconditional - it is conditioned on a foundation of mutual trust and respect. The only exception is the love that one has for their children - or perhaps a person reacting to a mental illness.
Anyway - I just thought I would share my thoughts and experiences with you.
