He has not said it in those exact words but he did say the last time I saw him this: "My life is not stable like it was, I am miserable, in debt and very unhappy. I can't sleep at night. I wake up shaking and go to bed shaking".
That was good enough for me.
His fantasy life is sure a nightmare.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11