Well, I won't get a chance to DB with H IN the apartment: His cousins are going to stay at a hotel for two nights and then with H's parents the other two. Oh well.
I have been thinking about what it would take for H to come home. And he actually spelled it out last night. It's amazing but my H is my DB coach! LOL
1. give him space 2. be happy without him 3. go on with life 4. don't ask questions I don't want to know the answers to 5. enjoy my visit to see my family and don't even think about him.
He actually told me last night that he has thought about coming home but he wants to do it for the right reasons. That if he comes back he wants it to be because he loves me not because he feels he has to come home.
I can do this right? It seems to be laid out in black and white for me. There are no guarentees that he will return but the goal is so reachable.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
