I like what you guys are saying about self respect.. I believe one has to maintain this. I do not believe in DBing at ALL costs.

I tried that, my ex viewed me as a weak pathetic person. I will not go there anymore. I am trying to be as "Christ-like" as I possibly can as well as maintaining self-respect and holding boundaries. It is a tough balance.

In my opinion, when they start treating you like dog dodo, it is time to go dark, withdraw completely from their antics. One must not reinforce negative behaviors or they will continue.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11