good grief! there should be a club for the obne heads that are the worst. YES I believe in being kind and compassionate and all that BLA but well --- there is also self respect!
Kiki your in NC too right? 3 years of this bs wow!! Doesn't mean that we dont or didn't try but well I feel like following trusting and jeanette steps.... D yes Done no Self Respect yes
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
Kiki because we love with pure love - thats what I think.
My H owes me over $2500 because my taxes paid off our 2006 debt. In our "settlement" he is suppose to be paying me $200 per month. I haven't seen a dime of it. He does pay child support and alimony and I am THANKFUL for that... it is this other I know he wont pay that and I dont know if I want to mess with it....
You have changed so much and have become so strong!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
I like what you guys are saying about self respect.. I believe one has to maintain this. I do not believe in DBing at ALL costs.
I tried that, my ex viewed me as a weak pathetic person. I will not go there anymore. I am trying to be as "Christ-like" as I possibly can as well as maintaining self-respect and holding boundaries. It is a tough balance.
In my opinion, when they start treating you like dog dodo, it is time to go dark, withdraw completely from their antics. One must not reinforce negative behaviors or they will continue.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
