H is Having Affair after all - Part 2

[Evie]

H has just sent me this email:

Below are the details for a course for D2 for a level one teacher in July. D2 has to do this course - we cannot keep on using her as unqualified.



She left me a letter last night explaining her feeling and anger towards me and also stating that I am no longer a friend to her. She also said that reasons have been down to her rudness and the fact that she cannot even say a word to me.

This she has done at work and in the house.

At home I don't mind - its her choice but at work I expect her to be polite both for the dept and for our lessons.

If she cannot be polite especially to me in front of others then I will replace her in the lessons from Sept and I will not pay for the course.

If we can sit down soon to discuss the house sale please. I have asked for some help with some of the jobs from a friend as I wont be able to do all of these and work and look after the boys.

There is resentment with D2 - im sorry to have to say. The way she is now with me is no different from when I lived at the house! She never spoke to me then especially when she came back from her dad's. I used to say to you that she hadn't even said hello to me then you used to remind her!!

I know recently you have said she is a normal hormonal teenager - if this is the case then she has been one all her life.

I am not a nasty person and I will help anyone out and give anyone anything I have as I have always.

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Such bitterness, such anger, such resentment towards D2.

D2 has been having C and the C helped her to write the letter, D2 did well on her own and didn't require much help, she left the letter for H to read this morning and asked him to not reply to her about it, so I guess thats why he's emailed me. What can i do? everything he says is true.

I'm putting off meeting about the house b/c i don't want to think about it all right now. I'm still undecided about moving. S1 had a meltdown last weekend and said to me 'Mummy, you won't ever leave me will you', it just broke my heart.

This w/e H is taking the boys away for a camping trip, Sat - Tues. When we were together i always wanted to do this and h never would, now he's bought all new gear and seems really happy with his life, which really p*sses me off b/c he has it all and what he has he seems very happy with. His single man's flat/life/ow/kids to suit/hardly any issues to deal with.

On a positive note, he emailed me yesterday and said to feel free to come down for the day and visit the boys and see the tent. Its a 6 hr round trip drive and the boys won't want me to leave once i'm there. I thanked him for the offer, said it was really kind, but cornwall was too far to go and come back in in a day and the boys would be upset to see me leave. No reply to that. Am i doing the right thing by not going?

So this weekend is 'project cheer up' time. Time for thought, plans, goals? Don't realy know where to start to be honest on the goals or the changes i need to make. I have addressed teh fact that i react negavtively and angrily, so am trying to be more positive and concious of reacting.