Late in the Game-thread 6, maybe last in separated

[cw68]

Yeah, it's screwed up. On the flip side, I just spent the past seven years out of the work force, staying home in part to help my H climb the corporate ladder. I'll have to go back to work at age 40 with no work history in the town we moved to for his job, a town that isn't a good match for my previous skill set. I will get four years of alimony, but that's it. Meanwhile, the past eight years have been rockin' for him. Simply rockin'. He's a good, smart, dedicated employee, for sure, but never once did he have to get home to kids, stay home with sick kids, say no to traveling or not be able to fix a problem because he had to get home to his kids. I honestly think it's bunk.

It's not like I'm asking for, or would ask, for indefinite spousal support, but I can't even get him to pay for me to go back to school for two years (and not an expensive program) that would allow me to have a decent paying career with health insurance (a huge concern of mine, asthma and very high breast cancer risk. I currently get MRIs every six months) to help MY career in the future. Not only do I feel that since I helped him out he should help me out, but this would make it better for our kids and I'd be more likely to be able to contribute to their college costs. But NO.

Simply put, those of us who stay at home to raise our kids can very easily get screwed in the face of divorce.