THANK YOU. You had some excellent things to say in your post. I've got to be honest, I wanted to reply to W when she sent the question, but I didn't know what to say. I'm very afraid of what she'll do or how she'll react, so I'm incredibly gun shy about answering questions like that.
However, the way you phrased it is PERFECT. Those were the words I needed at the time, but didn't have. She's asked this question before, so I'm sure she'll ask it again. Next time, I'll be ready as I typed your phrase into my cell phone and stored it there.
By answering her question like you mentioned, I'll be affirming her and acknowledging that I did get the question and I am concerned that she feels that way. Thank you again.
Your 2nd point was also good. I was again afraid to talk w/ her last night b/c I didn't know where it would go and I was out having a good time. However, you are 100% correct in saying she didn't look at my non-answer as "Hmm. I wonder what he's doing?" That would have been very good for me.
NO, instead she took it as "He's never there when I need him." That is her old perception of me, so a 180 in this situation would have been to talk to her last night. I see it now, but I didn't yesterday.
Thank you again, my wise friend from the coast of England.
