I think she wants to be friends

[sleeper]

Thanks Breton,

I read your thread about D being away on a trip with your H. I didn't post because I didn't know what to say. Being separated from my kids is the worst part of this whole experience. The silver lining to this cloud is that I cherish each moment spent with them and experience it more thatn I might have without the separation.

I do have a question for anyone who has figured this out.

Now that we are divorced, W still asks me to take care of the kids for her for a variety of reasons when it is technically her time. I have never asked the this favor of her. The reasons for these requests are usually work demands or as she said tonight, "I'm so tired I'm about to lose it."

I declined taking the children tonight, making the excuse I had "plans" to which she immediately asked, "got a hot date?" I just ignored that question.

The problem is I would like to address this once and for all and I am having trouble phrasing a good response. If I say, "we're divorced now and you have to figure this out" or "what did you expect was going to happen when we got divorced" or "you have to figure this out just like I do" it will sound like I'm rubbing in the fact that I believe she made a mistake and she will just dig her heels in deeper.

She is still talking about "our debt." It's so damn weird. It's like in her mind we're not divorced in ways although we are. I am probably the person she is most close to in this world which is also weird.

The biggest 180 I could do is to respond "why yes I do" the next time she asks, "got a hot date?"

"Shake it up" The Cars