I agree with Purr about your H seeing that you are GALing. I have proof of this because my H and I have had many, many, MANY discussions about his thoughts while he was in MLCland.
H told me he saw the changes immediately and at first thought they were a tactic to get him back...H then realized I was the strong one and I was not putting my life on hold because of him.
H told me he used to wonder what I was doing and who I was out with when it was his weekend with the kids...even admitting to driving by the house on occasion to see if anyone was here.
Funny thing is, I did try my best to GAL, but when I was feeling down I still made sure that H saw me at my best...
We S 12/06 and so I did not have plans for new years eve. I told H I did so he would stay with the kids...I got all dressed up and accessorized and went out. To this day, h has never asked where I went...I am glad because I would have to tell him I drove to my parents house, put on my pj's and ate Chinese food with them while I corrected seventh grade essays!
Make yourself be missed. I am not saying it will change things but it will create a sense of reflection on H's part.
