hopeful, did you do the 1 day or 2 day session? were you sent home with materials that you both could work on together? or was it pretty much just the books? did you feel like you accomplished a lot while there? It seems like you were probably in a different place where we are right now...don't know your situation, though, so tell me if I am wrong. in a nutshell my h left last summer and has been living with ow until a week or so ago when he left her and asked to reconcile...lots more than that, but in a nutshell that covers it. so he is pretty motivated.
Yes your sitch is different than mine. I was a WAW who, after 9months of sep, decided to reconcile. Long story short, my H had decided to give up at that point and I became the LBS. My H is also far from wanting to work things out, at least as far as I can tell, but it still did wonders for our relationship. It also, like I said, planted that seed of doubt. Michele showed him that his expectation and ideas about M were just part of those many myths she discusses in her book. I believe that he will begin to see that she was in fact right. We didn't get along very well before and now we are good friends.
You are in a much better position since your H is motivated to work on the marriage. I agree with his friend. IT IS the best money I have ever spent. It will help you to approach/see M differently and show you how to handle your particular issues. She is great at getting to the issues, finding a solution and making you feel comfortable all the while. She is unlike any therapist, counselor etc. that I have ever met.
I did the one day session and was sent home with the KLA series. I haven't been able to use it yet but when we do reconcile I am sure that it will be an excellent tool.
Good luck. Your story gives me hope and I am very happy for you.
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Posts Role Reversal(original) WAW now LBS part I & II WAW now LBS part III(current) T: 9 yrs M: 8 yrs WAW: Sep 06-Jul 07 LBS: Sep 07-pres.
