After 3 long years, H is home - II

[MichelleLT]

Well, since asking usually gets a "yes" response, I would say try applying the "ask for what you want" stuff out of DB. Might actually make a big difference if he says "yes" enough.

His willingness to spend extra time at work is a reflection of his own issues. That won't change until he resolves his internal conflicts.

It's rough to be doing it basically alone. All I can really say is that if you get D, that won't change. So perhaps giving him some time to deal with his stuff is the way to get that old H back.