MrsH, I know you were joking about the smoking. I'm a smoker and it does help relax some but it's also an expense that I shouldn't have. Trying to quit but then I start up again.
Can you take the yoga class more than on Thursdays? What else will help you how you feel when you do the yoga? Maybe yoga at home?
It is easier to get rid of the anger when you have a nicer MLCR. But when you get treated like sh*t overe and over and over again. Well, being nice is hard. My h does not do things that are nice out of Guilt. He is plain mean on purpose.
EXACTLY Kiki!
Dar, my gf teaches yoga in her home on Thursday mornings. She started to do some night classes but as of right now they don't work for me. She does one on Wednesday nights but it doesn't end until 8:30pm and that is too late for me because I have the boys.
I think my parent's were buying me the Wii fitness for my bday. That has yoga and all this other excersice on that. So if they do get it for me then I will take full advantage of it.
maybe instead of worrying about when the ex will get his (which he will) you can look at ho wyou are going to get yours...I don't mean in a bad way
but
try and find the positive lessons in the situation
it seems that his attitudes have so much power over yours
when you learn your lesson...whatever that is...then you can move on to other lessons
I had such a low self-esteem and I had to keep getting beat down until I learned that I am responsible for how I feel. Don't get me wrong...I get reminders of that lesson all the time...refreshers...but I KNOW that I will never have to repeat the whole lesson again
try and find the lesson you are meant to learn
God is the Teacher...you are only taught the lessons you need
You ex needs to learn his and figuring out what it is will exhaust you
I see a thread lock in your near future ... just sayin.
About your L matters though. My guess is the judge will play nice with anyone that can show her an easy answer to these things. Your L not being there to point out this will not go down easy was bad. Be sure to let this potential L understand.
If you do switch, ask how that could play to the judge. What impact would it have for new L to say you were not properly represented, and you have not been given fair consideration for your needs? Make the judge see this is getting uglier, not easier.
Ask the maybe-new L about any past cases creating a precedent in this court ... women that needed to move and were allowed. What JA wants or does not want should not discount your desire to live near your family and the support they will provide. Start a long unreasonable list of the support they could provide and demand JA match it 100%.
A six month trial does not provide the long term safety net you need and the court should get ready to monitor JA until the kids are 18 or until you are finally allowed to move. End of story.
Does the judge want to see you come back every six months asking if you can move yet? !!!! Suggest that moving is your ultimate overiding desire and the only thing in your way is the cost of returning to court often. Suggest that improving your earning ability will only increase the likelihood of your frequent appearances in court.
Good luck on the L tomorrow. As always, you and the kids are in our thoughts and prayers.
I was going bald from stress (my hair falls out when I get stressed)
and
there was a moment when it was a do or die I guess I had to give it up to God because I couldn't control anything anymore
not even my reactions
I remember praying the same prayer over and over and it was just please help me...please help me
I had to give it up I had to because I couldn't do it alone
I prayed to find the meaning...the lesson
I went back to therapy and took honest and hard looks at myself. There wasn't a therapy session (and I went twice a week for a long time) where I didn't cry. The first probably 5 sessions were me just crying.
then we looked at behaviors and patterns and I did really hard work to figure out where my feelings came from.
I was going to start EMDR (I think) sessions but actually got my job and moved before they could start.
it doesn't happen over night
it happens when you are raw and exposed and humbled beyond what you have ever felt
it is then that the voice of God is clear My job was to listen
