So is this in comparison to us "driving" and investing in the M while they take a break?
I at the time was asking about D papers, but we ended up talking about it more generally...like if she is not calling I shouldn't call. She's not inviting me, so I shouldn't invite her...that sort of thing. But that is when DB coach said "no, it's like you take over driving while she rests awhile and then let her drive again when she is ready." That's why I had the courage to call her a couple times for small reasons. She ended up sharing stuff about work both times. It's small but who knows. She did slip during a VM the other day and said at the end, "gotta go, Love you, (caught herself) no, (and then softly many seconds later), no sorry." So who knows, my point is that everyone once in awhile, like your peck, you do something, like take over driving until you get your clue to let them steer again.
sent her this email, "if you would like, transfer as much money as necessary for your blah blah bill."
short and sweet...didn't mention other debt or reasons why or fears that she may have, concerns, whatever, just put it out there for her. If nothing else, it is mysterious...puts all of those whys in her head. Maybe, she will come up with one that puts me in a good light. Maybe, it doesn't matter...
who knows...
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He is also continuing to call me his X and all his new friends don't even know that he is married. My local therapist told me to do more things for me and to ask 10 guys what his motivation is to calling me his X, denying my existence, but not yet filing papers even though I have told him I have let go. Thoughts guys?
I don't know if I would ask the ten guys, unless they are just completely different people than he would know. Even then, I think you get 10 answers. I imagine most of the WA's would say something similar. Mine probably says she is getting a D or is D'd. Perhaps, we think more about it than they do. Part of this whole mess is acceptance. We don't. But they long accepted it. So, my thought is that they may not even be thinking when they say it. Just 2 cents worth probably less...lol
