On one had, she thinks there is something "right" or "better" out there that she may miss out on. On the other hand she is afraid to let go. She is afraid to lose everything that we have. Will she someday be clicking her heels together saying "there's no place like home", only to find out it is too late?
HFF,
There is ALWAYS something "better" out there. No sense in even pondering it. It is simply the truth. However, the HUGE problem is you need to keep jumping from person to person from R to R to keep "finding" something "better." There is never any commitment. All of these Rs/Ms are temporary.
I see it as you love this person and want to be with them or not. It is not some auction where you wait for the highest bidder.
Were there better women out there than my exW? YES! Were there prettier women out there? Heck, YES! Were there woman with more $$$$$$$$$$$$$$? Yes. Did any of this matter to ME? Heck, no.... I was foolish enough to love her with every cell of my body..... I just wanted to be with her...
Does that mean when you think you find someone "better" you can leave your R/M? Is she willing to be up front and honest and tell others this so they can keep an eye out for something "better" than her?
If one wants to keep jumping from R to R or M to M, there is always something "better." The choice one really has to make is are you going to stick to your commitments or not?
NMD
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
