It is hard. Finding pictures with him and the OW was one of the most devastating experiences of my life. But...he suffers from ED and mentioned in the emails I found that his libido did not work. I think he probably tried. But, I agree. IF it was just sex, it would have been one thing. This woman knew things about my marriage. That hurts more.
Wow, that is the first time i have admitted to that
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
No no, I am not taking over your post ((( Michelle )))thanks I needed that
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
No worries. It was totally on topic. But hugs are free around here.
I just got a very amusing bit of news. OW is stupider than I thought. She left H an IM with a youtube link talking about how cool the music was...he described it to his friend as a terrorist recruiting video. H was NOT amused. In fact, he's quite pissed off at her stupidity lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Unfortunately, I think that at some level, that attracts him to her. He can easily feel "superior" to her. He can be in charge. That's a bit harder with you!
ok, I know we say you H is stupid and immature and all that..and he is ACTING that way right now...but I gather that he is actually probably pretty intelligent and driven in the things he does. OW seems so young and just not on the same wavelength as your H. Just what I have gathered from what you write....so....I DON"T GET IT!!
My H and OW had things in common that drew him to her. Granted, she was a loser and he finally saw that...but I have to admit that there are things they have in common. Your H and OW seem to have nothing in common! Even more reason that their R would never work.
Of course, I do need to work on not trying to push my opinions onto him. I think there are definite things he gets from his "R" with her that we didn't have. So, definitely things to work on.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Unfortunately, I think that at some level, that attracts him to her. He can easily feel "superior" to her. He can be in charge. That's a bit harder with you!
but I gather that he is actually probably pretty intelligent and driven in the things he does. OW seems so young and just not on the same wavelength as your H. Just what I have gathered from what you write....so....I DON"T GET IT!!
He is DEFINITELY intelligent. He has always struggled with the driven part in that he often gets interested in a new project and drops old projects. She is young, not on the same wavelength, drives him batty, yet he can't seem to break up with her.
Partially because she won't accept it, but partially because he is getting something from her that he doesn't get from me. He feels inferior to me. And I think my actions have often exacerbated that. While she obviously is inferior to him. In a couple IMs from last year he even referred to her as his "pet project!"
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
