Near...you say you've tried many of the husband fixers...but as I said in my last post...did you ever try it because it was the RIGHT THING TO DO - versus trying it to get a reward?
Please don't think I am bashing on you. This is just something I have finally learned after all of these years, and I kind of think you are missing that part of the point.
DanceQueen
Dance,
Sorry this has taken so long to respond to.
It is a hard thing to maintain a motivation for doing something simply "because it is the right thing." I agree, that SHOULD be the motivation. The problem is the long term response to the actions. If those responses are consistantly negative and discouraging, it tends to make them go away over time. Granted, due to my unending love, high moral character etc, I should be able to continue to infinity on these things without receiving or expecting anthing back. The really frustrating thing is that a lot of these actions, ie cleaning the kitchen etc, are now considered an entitelment by her and are subject for extreme reactions if something goes wrong and it is missed. By the way, I have done this one for over a decade!
Still, all in all, I do need to work on my attitude towards these actions.
