For my two penneth.. I wouldnt send the article to her and her sister (were you joking?). I think its bad karma and if your H found out, he might not view it kindly, it could be read as kind of malicious, I dont know. I just dont see how it would help you and it could backfire. But maybe you were kidding !? Apologies if so!
Also, the article is written as though the H is sneaking around and still livign with his W as a M man, and the W doesnt know and he therefore has a mistress. Thats not the sitch you are in, you are separated and she knows that and you know about her and he knows that you both know, so its not "seeing a M man" in the conventional sense, well, not the UK translation. Seeing a M man in the UK means that he is seeing an OW behing the W back and lying to his W whilst pretending to be faithful and still in a loving M with her and the OW is vainly waiting for him to end it with his W. So, I dont think the article would resonate with her anyway, and might make her more determined in a way?
I still think you shouldnt contact him, let him come find you. I know you said you couldnt wait to hear about the taxes, is that for legal reasons, you have to submit something, or just that you want to know/need the money? Can you make do with not knowing and not getting the money just yet if it means that you can leave him be, wait and see if he misses you/initiates contact? I think you need to leave him be and let her hassle him and for him to get even more sick of her and then he will wake up to the wonderful you!
Hope you ok today and less tired, I am knackered ! (is that a US word too?) Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
