The fact that I am still not sure they had/have a sexual relationship, makes it worse for me too. I told him, I told him back then that what hurts me more is that SHE knows stuff about MY husband that I don't. That SHE was the person he felt like talking to while he hated being around with me, that SHE was giving him advice how to "live his life" and that "people that love you don't need explanations about what you feel, they just love you"...
One of these days -I swear- she is up for a big surprise. I confronted her -kind of- (back 6 months ago) through TM. She said "what are you talking about?" made me look like I was crazy. But you know what? She is probably regretting ever knowing my H. She 36 years old, anxious to get married (her words), she wantsto have kids and the last thing she knows is that she has to wait another 4 years before I "give" him the divorce. I am SURE he never told her I am asking for it and he is refusing. I am sure he doesn't tell her he is thinking of coming home.
Hopefully, I will have a better R with my H and she will have lost 1 year of her life....
