I am a new comer. I don't know if I am in the correct place, or if I am doing this right... I have never communicated in any type of a forum before.
I discovered this site yesterday, after reading about it in The Divorce Remedy.
I have been reading everything I can get my hands on about MLC, and when I read Chapter 12 I felt like someone had copied pages of my own journal. I truly feel as if I have been lead to you.
A year ago in April (4/2007) I was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was discovered during my routine mamograhm, and I had surgery, followed by chemotherapy and radiation. It was a tough year, but "so far, so good", as least as far as my health goes.
The problem is now with my H. The loving, supportive man that was at my side through my horrible nightmare has suddenly morphed into someone I don't recognize. The man that held me and cried with me, that helped me shave off my remaining hair, suddenly has decided that he "loves me, but is not in love with me anymore". The varoius things he has said and done over the past few months have broken my heart and almost crushed my spirit. I find myself wondering WHY I went thru all of the cancer treatment, only to face losing the man that I love.
I have to say that since reading DR I have started to disengage and I no longe panic when H says we need to end our marriage. Initially, I think I responded the way that everyone does, and I did everything wrong. Since starting to employ the ideas in DB I have seen some hope.
My question is, does anyone out there have experience with a critical illness triggering a MLC? Any suggestions?
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
