I'm not sure OW will actually read it all. One reason I want to send it to the sister - her sister is NOT supportive of their "R" and this will give her more ammunition.
I also suspect as she is a jealous, needy, whiny b!t@h that telling her that we were seeing each other will cause a huge blow-out fight between OW and H. I'm not sure if I actually want to cause that drama, but it's SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO tempting. Plus, it's the truth. And I'm not good about lying / keeping secrets.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I understand your feelings, and although I am sure it is tempting, I can understand not wanting to cause the drama. But on the other hand...the truth will set you free. I can't lie either. My face is an open book..HE!! my voice is an open book. I don't think, though, its a bad thing...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Adultery still is a crime in the military....I've been very tempted to talk to my H's CO a couple times....
I was tempted too. The lawyer I spoke too said it would have been fairly easy to have them do something about it since he was living with her. Not to mention the fact that his CO had seen his attitude change and required he go to counseling. AND he was sent on an emergency TDY and they couldn't find him. His CO and a friend showed up at my house looking for him. His CO said if they couldn't find him that night he would likely be discharged. That was before I knew he was living with OW. He told me he was living with a friend from work....the friend that showed up at my house looking for him.
Whew...sorry about all that, just wanted to say I had thought about it too....although I think that would have sealed the deal on our R being over.
Yeah that may be true, but as I said given enough rope anyone can hang themselves. My H worked for a hospital where it was against P&P to have a relationship w/ a co-worker. Someone found out and complained to management, and they also saw a change in my H i.e. anger issues. They did the same...forced him into counseling. So sometimes, although we would like to take matters into our own hands, someone else does the work for us.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Whew...sorry about all that, just wanted to say I had thought about it too....although I think that would have sealed the deal on our R being over.
That's why I haven't done it. That's the ONLY reason I haven't done it.
Especially after he claimed me for housing purposes last fall and didn't share the money with me. I was Mad about that one - still feel like he was just using our M when it was convenient for him. Grrrrr.
But, my patience has paid off and I am seeing signs of confusion from him. Which IS progress from his adament "I want a D" and "why won't you sign the f@cK!ng summary dissolution with me?" Lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Someone....*cough* ahem me *cough* might have anonymously tipped off his CO that he might have PTSD...and my H *might* have been called in and talked to. Unfortunately, since he's not on active duty, they can't force him into counseling. However, they have been keeping an eye on him.
I think I am going to put together that article, plus the link, and an introductory note and send it to both OW and her sister. Anonymously, speaking of myself in the third person.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Especially after he claimed me for housing purposes last fall and didn't share the money with me. I was Mad about that one - still feel like he was just using our M when it was convenient for him. Grrrrr.
Yep, went through that too. Although I did threaten H that I WOULD call his CO if he didn't help with the house especially since he was getting increased BAH because of ME!
Oh yeah, and he got separation allowance when he was in Iraq because we were married. We put it in the bank and after he left he told me all that money was his!! He wouldn't have gotten ANY of that money if he wasn't M.
Ok, I need to stop talking about this, I can feel my blood pressure rising.
I think it is good that you let his CO know so they can keep an eye on him. Too bad they can't make him go to counseling.
(((Kris))) It's all in the past. No point in dragging it out to examine with a microscope. They're all brain-dead and selfish at that point, so nothing is really a shock looking back.
Luckily, you are having some good times now.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
However, they have been keeping an eye on him.