Puppy- Did your W go through OM withdrawals? How did you handle them? What were some of the first things you did once the NC policy came to being, etc.
WDID,
Yes, she did, although it wasn't as bad because they had already had a couple of fits-and-starts mini-breakups along the way.
Our couple of weeks immediately following my wife's "I don't want to lose you; I screwed up; please take me back" moment was characterized by HUGE mood and behavior swings by her, as it relates to me. She would exhibit deep, genuine remorse only to follow that less than a day later by lashing out AT ME with pent up resentment and "going on offense." I would respond firmly each time, call her on her b.s., and she would immediately then apologize and be remorseful again. Part of this was probably due to the fact that I took such an aggressive approach with the confrontation, exposure, and the finances; I was warned about this (but would do it all again, in a heartbeat, rather than have to live thru that hell for more than the three months).
I tried to simultaneous call her on the b.s, but also give grace and lots of hugs and e-mails and words of encouragement, and NOT to "lord it over" her with her affair.
