Part of detaching is not taking her anger personally. Sift through what she says and does and think about how it might reflect on ways you want to improve yourself. But don't ever take it personally. 99% of it is her own guilt, fear, anger, remorse, PLUS her headaches and stress and family. It's not about you.
I am glad she appreciates you and missing your sympathy. There are a lot of small positives in there.
Hang in there.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2