you've found a great place to seek advice and get support. there are many on here who will give you incredible guidance, so keep checking in and asking questions. i don't consider myself one them as I don't post that often, but did want to welcome you & let you know you're in good company.
the best advice that I can give you is to take a deep breath, collect yourself and dive into the book, DB that is. Have you purchased it yet? I can assure you that the more you resist, beg,plead & play the victim, rather than validate your W and give her some space if she needs it the more damage you will be doing.
Look at this as a gift from your wife, an opportunity to improve yourself and your marriage. In your case there seems to be some very positive signs. It doesn't appear as though your W has closed the door completely or reached a point of no return. I think w/some patience on your part, & your willingness to adopt the DB principles that you have a great shot at restoring your M.
I'm at about year 1 of seperation, but I did all of the wrong things when I heard the ILYB... talk and continued to do them for a while after the S. My resistance to the situation created a stronger bond w/the OM she was having an EA with, and that has really complicated things. The sooner you can accept the sitch you're in, accept responsibility for your actions, and again begin to adopt DB principles, the better off you'll be in the long run. I know it seems difficult right now, but trust me, things will get better no matter what happens.
Stay strong and hang in there!
Me: 35 WAW: 34 T: 7.5 yrs M: 3 yrs (2/14/05) no kids ILYB...& EA Bomb 1/5/07 S - 6/15/7 PA started 6/16/07 D Final 10/14/08
