I think many, MANY women are getting what they THOUGHT they wanted. The constant rejection of their husbands, as they've gone about essentially being "married" to their kids, has led the husbands to give up, turn to porn, turn to OW, etc.
Not saying that's RIGHT; just saying it's TRUE.
For the past 30 years, the contemporary American woman -- and the media -- have asked for Phil Donahue. Well, now that you got him, he ain't that attractive, is he.