they have mine and their grandchildren's best interest at heart. BUT, they also love their son
Hi Cinders,
I'm also learning that blood is most certainly thicker than water. My SIL has said that I'm like a sister to her and will always be family and MIL said that I'm already her daughter and would disown her son if he D'ed me - yet, it doesn't seem like my kids and I were missed at all at their Mother's Day celebration which we weren't invited to. Even though nothing has been said to me, I also sense them cutting me out financially (which could turn out to be a good thing, since it would force responsibility on to H, where it should be). Also, MIL - who always remembers - didn't acknowledge my birthday a few weeks ago.
It hurts to feel like I'm getting squeezed out of a family I grew to love (no matter how dysfunctional). But I also understand their loyalties are to their son/brother who share their blood and that the only person I can truly depend on is myself.
