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The problem is that I really enjoy giving. I love to spoil her with little gifts or a nice dinner. I actually derive pleasure from doing nice things for her; I know, I’m a sick and twisted bastard.


Nope. If you're sick and twisted, then I must be sick and twisted for enjoying that kind of thing or an enabler and a co-dependent

That is normal behavior!! Not everyone does it, but there is nothing wrong with it.

There's a book by Chapman called the Five Love Lanugages. Giving/receiving gifts is a love language. Read about it... maybe your W has a different love language?