No we don't stop loving them, but we sure start not trusting them.
I've been missing him so much lately.
Oh crap!! I also told him I think about him constantly. Last thing at night, first thing in the morning
His voice went from soft, to accusatory, then blank at the end.
I am still following my plan. Nothing has changed.
I am going to try and put this out of my mind for awhile. Yeah.
Just when you build up your courage to go it alone.
He would really have to be intentionally cruel and demented to be doing this on purpose. You can't just play with peoples emotions like that. It's not right.
I remember him saying.....yeah yeah your going to say this is what I wanted, but if you had of did this or that then I wouldn't have wanted to leave.
He's buying ovulation kits for Gods sake!!!
I wonder if the alledged wifey knows any of this?
I wonder why I care?
He's virtually left me alone, abandoned me.....yet he eases his guilt by paying for my home, my utilies (don't comment on that please ) my car.
Like I said I am moving forward. I'm too tired to live this way.
Yet it's hard to to live any different when they won't get out of your way, which is why I decided to take control of it and file the motion.
I did tell him I filed against him. He said he didn't care, he was too tired. I also said that I'm asking for 85% equity when I sale the house, he said he wants to win the lotto....I said well my odds of getting 85% equity are almost a sure thing now. He said fine.....again, he's too tired to think.
Hmmm. Tap tap tap.....is he spinning or being evil?
Time will tell.....but I'm glad I said what I did. My words to him have not changed. I've always told him the truth.
Let him deal with his guilt however he needs to. I can't live with guilt hanging over my head.
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Jeanette, fwiw, I don't think Rich is deliberately manipulating you. I think he is confused, and unwilling to work on his issues. But it is addictive, for both of you, and someone has to break this cycle of him coming closer and then running away. Geesh, he could still be doing this at 70!
You are so nice, and he cannot step up to the plate. It is a mess. I think you have to continue to proceed with the motion. Not necessarily because he is manipulating you, but because you need to do it for yourself. Move on, and keep the door open a crack. Do not live for Rich, but for Jeanette.
He would really have to be intentionally cruel and demented to be doing this on purpose. You can't just play with peoples emotions like that. It's not right.
or trying to ease the guilt out of him. That is really cruel at this point to be rehashing the past and blaming you, he's prob feelign rotten and called you to confirm his belief that it was all you and thus he is innocent. BS!!
Hugs honey))))))))) sorry you are hurting, each of us would feel that way, it's hard enough to move forward without the WAS yanking the chain of the past.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
I've been db'ing my son the last couple of weeks, ya know I love the big guy but am just a we bit tired of him not doing his part around here.
I will admit db'ing him is going really good! Much better than an actual MLC'er with no brain cells
My son has been calling me at work to chit chat and of course I'm too busy however, when he called me yesterday he said "Please don't hate me" and I stopped the "acting as if". I listened he listened.
We are all we have, we have always been a team and we always will. I remember a certain person used to be so jelous of our relationship and it bothered him. I guess I paid my son more attention than I did to my xh. Hmmm....oh well.
My son and I had plans to go out to dinner deep in Miami last night (cough cough) but he was running late. I offered to pick him up where he parks his work van (at his friends house) he said Ok and gave me directions. Well....just as I exited off the freeway he called and said he was standing under the overpass Ok.....so I eased over in traffic scooped him up and asked him why didn't he just wait at his friends house for me??? He said because he thot it would be easier for me to find him. Uh huh....alrighty then.
Now as a parent we KNOW when our kids are lying to us. Gosh but they do believe we are stupid don't they? So we pull over and switch places....he's driving cos I detest driving in Miami! So were speeding along, I'm securely strapped in my seatbelt and he says Mom, I've got something I need to tell you.....my heart hits my tummy He said I can't take it anymore, we shouldn't have secrets between us, we should always be honest with each other about everything....(lip quiver) and I have been dying with guilt over not telling you something.
Yes, my worst fear as a mother has materialized.
Josh has a MOTORCYCLE!
Not just any motorcycle....one of those ninja speed zig zag in n out of cars kind of things He knows I never wanted him to get one. Crud. I didn't know whether I should cry at his honesty or angry at his decision to get one. So...I stayed calm then I listened to him explain to me about how the gas prices are killing him....how he's been secretly going over to his friends house on the weekends and learning to ride it, and saturday he takes his test at the DMV to get his motorcycle lisence. Bleh!
Sooooo.......yeah, bout that time I noticed we were in the vicinity of my xh's alledged residence now I know the address simply because it's on MY vehicle registration card. I didn't snoop...he handed it to me
So Josh and I pulled up to La Casa Batcave. I got out and knocked. Crud. No one was at home, and I really wanted to say hello
Now because I tend to talk to much I decided I should call Rich and let him know I dropped by. It's simply manners. Wait! I did try and call before I stopped by, but he didn't answer...I mean, nothing like univited guests dropping by unannounced right? So yeah, I called to say I stopped by but this time he answered. He was at his Mothers. I told him about the motorcycle and uhm...knocking on his door I don't think he appreciated it too much. He said something about stalking him. My bad. Then he said he had to go as it wasn't very nice of him to leave his company and be on the phone. Ffffttttt.
First....no wait....second time in 2.5 years I've gotten up the nerve to knock on a door he might be hiding behind and now......now I am a stalker.
I don't think he appreciated my giggles either, but I couldn't help it. Ever get a case of the giggles and can't stop??? Well I did and uhm, I guess he didn't think it was as amusing as I did. My bad.
Anyway......topped off the evening by following my son home on his motorcycle through the Miami streets and freeways then Josh took me for a ride in the neighborhood. I don't like it
And it's only Wednesday!!
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
) my car.
however, when he called me yesterday he said "Please don't hate me" and I stopped the "acting as if". 
Ok.....so I eased over in traffic scooped him up and asked him why didn't he just wait at his friends house for me??? He said because he thot it would be easier for me to find him. Uh huh....alrighty then. 
He said I can't take it anymore, we shouldn't have secrets between us, we should always be honest with each other about everything....(lip quiver) and I have been dying with guilt over not telling you something.
I don't think he appreciated it too much. He said something about stalking him. My bad. Then he said he had to go as it wasn't very nice of him to leave his company and be on the phone. Ffffttttt.