Just a small update. Little bits of info have been coming in that makes me think my WAW is finally starting to realize the consequences of her actions.
First, of course, is that about once a week she wants to stop by for some reason or another and then wants to stay and talk for several hours. Usually she ends up crying over something we've shared - friends or shared memories or something.
Next is that she told me she's noticed people are going out of their way to say or do nice things for me and not her, including her advisor.
Then a friend told me that she's been telling people we're Ding and its "mainly her doing."
I think the fact that I've let go completely and am now focused only on my own life has made a big difference. She sees me going out and enjoying the things we used to do together, and she's stuck inside working on a never-ending project with OM. She sees me engaging with people on many different subjects that she's interested in, and she's stuck discussing the same thing over and over with OM.
I don't know what will happen in the next 5 months before D is final, and I don't know if I could realistically get back with her even though I love her (because I don't think she'd do the work it'd take), but something is happening. The power in this R is shifting and now it is becoming more and more my choice. I think when she goes out to do remote work in the first part of June, she's going to be feeling very lonely coming back to our house alone and knowing I'm off having fun.
She's definitely not the same person who told me she felt "relieved and good" about dumping me.
