I have thoughts along the lines of ACJ, BUT I really have no idea how I would react IF one of my children did the same-is it just a son thing or would it apply to daughters? I however did call my MIL on how she accepted OW into the family after having me as her DIL for 30 years and knowing me since I was 5yrs old. I received a v scathing letter saying I had no right to say who she could and could not see in HER family! This after just weeks before saying I would always be her DIL and that my H had never said a bad thing about me BUT "these things happen"! I HATE that phrase with a vengence now. She then wrote an 11 page letter to her sister re writing my m and cataloguing all my failings in that m. Pure fiction. I then asked her not to send me the occassional card saying she was thinking of me. We have had no contact since-8 years. She has seen one grandchild once since then -he visited her as he was in the area. NO mention of anything to do with his Dad or me, just how well her other g/children were doing. I and my children no longer exist. So be warned. These where the people who I did so much for and loved dearly getting on with them better than my own parents. Had my FIL still been alive I think it would have been different. She has also never seen her g,g g/son. I feel so sorry for her but that's how she has always lived her life, unpleasantness doesn,t exist all swept under the rug. For her 80th birthday I sent flowers and a card from me and kids-they all got a call thank you-me? Im still waiting.
