Aching Man,

I'm sorry to hear of your sitch. Forget about considering meds. It will not help the problem and may create other problems for yourself. I know you are feeling dissapointed but for now, try not to think about the issue too much. Give it and yourself a rest. Concentrate on the other areas in your life that makes you happy. I am sure there are lots. Don't feel like you are on probation or treading on eggshells around your W. Your W has said that she loves you. Perhaps it would also help to let your W know that you are dissapointed and hurt by her reaction and not that you would learn to deal with your frustration. I find that whenever I told H that I would not bring up the issue again (and I genuinely meant it at the time), he thinks I am okay with it when I am not and then he gets very angry with me when I do bring it up again and is surprised that I would not let the issue rest. As far as H is concerned, he is perfectly happy with the way things are. The only times he is unhappy is when I discuss this. So he probably thinks I am the problem.