Mrs, I agree with Mom. I think that you going to school at night or getting a job then might work in your favor. The judge will see that you're not being "vindictive" that you are working with JA's schedule so that he can spend more time with the boys while you are improving yourself. And that you are not out to take the moron for everything, that you are indeed moving forward and bettering yourself and educating yourself so that you can provide for your family as well as JA.
I also think JA will give up after a while. But you do need to make sure that it is noted that the kids have a specific bedtime because as we all know JA will try to keep them up all night long so that they are cranky and out of sorts during the day when you have them.
Also, make sure that he isn't planning on going for custody of the kids. Just sayin'. I am to cautious now sometimes but he needs to put on record that YOU are to be the primary custodian parent, period. I don't want him to come back and say that he is taking care of them, feeding them dinner and bathing them and blah, blah, blah. Of course he would be but those are the things you do during the day too.
I know, probably overkill and worry on my part. But let's face it JA has not been the most forthcoming of fellows.
Hope you have a great meeting with the new L on Thursday, and that you LOVE her. I think you are being very proactive in meeting with someone one and not just taking what you get from your current L.
