I really do wish I had an answer for you...but then I've had much the same r with my h for far to long now..things seem to be better (well at least I think it's more than once a month now??) they are not where I'd like...I've expressed this "problem" to h in many many ways...he is well aware of how I feel..how the sit makes me feel...and yet because he doesn't feel it I get the "that's just the way I am" "that's just me" so again it is one party having to fully accept one as they are sacrificing their wants and needs simply becuase the other "just isn't that way"
I'm finding what does help me is to look for h expressing love and other types of intimacy in other ways...in other words I'm trying to read his Love Language and accept it and hear it...not a total solution but it is helping (may be a route you'd like to take before going to meds.)
