When life just hits you

[ACJ]

think about if one of our kids didthe same..we would supporrt them but may not agree.

I may put myself out on a limb here BUT having gone through this myself I would NEVER support any of my children who did the same to their spouse. Call me a hard hearted bi**ch BUT I've seen what that support does to the WAS. It fuels thier reasoning for doing what they are doing. I don't want to be responsible for encouraging someone (no matter how much I love them) to cause an immeasurable amount of pain to their family. I'm fairly certain that if my MIL had stuck to her own principles (which I know she taught H) throughout all of this his attitude would be very different now. He would probably still be with OW BUT I don't believe he would have sunk as low as he has if in the back of his mind he truely knew his mother disapproved. Her opinion is VERY important to him and right now he thinks b/c she has 'accepted' his behaviour that she is reinforcing that he is doing the 'right' thing.