I've been doing it by the book (literally). No conversations or phone calls that are not about our son, etc.

This past Sunday, she calls and says she would be over soon to pick up our son. I said okay.

While she was at my house, she acted angry/upset or something. I finally asked her "Is there something wrong?" to which she replied "I wish you would stop asking me that."

So I let it go and focused on business at hand....I gave her our gov. stimulus check and told her "I'll get my half from you when I get back from work on Wednesday." Again, she acted angry at the notion that I actually expected half of the money.

I finally said "Look, I was going to ask you if the three of us (her, me, and our son) could have breakfast in the morning so he can at LEAST see that we are capable of being around each other and still keep HIM as the focus of our lives." She said she was okay with that.

We met, had breakfast, etc. The entire time, I dont think she said more than one full sentence to me, as I was trying to keep the conversation "light". NOTHING with R talk or anything like that...just how I had met a little boy with a terminal heart defect the day before at a party, and how it made me grateful that our son was well. She and I had quite a scare with him when he was born, so she just kind of looked at me and said "yeah, I know what you mean."

I'm just not too sure how to interpret her anger..or if it even IS anger.

All I DO know is that I am no longer acting the way I was before our marriage ended (see previous thread), I'm taking care of our son, I'm very involved with him, and I've been doing what I can within my own limitations to GAL.

All I can figure is that its been 9 months since she moved out, and she cannot help but see that I've changed...but that she has to keep herself artificially angry in order to go through with the D if she chooses. She has not yet filed, and I'm not really sure why....but lately, she seems even more withdrawn and angry or upset than usual.

ALSO, I have recently uncovered some emails left on an old desktop computer that I haven't turned on since she left....and I have at the very least, strong circumstantial evidence that she was seeing someone else. A guy doesn't call himself "Jody" in an email to your wife without a reason, if you know what I mean.

I'm sorta lost, and I'm not quite sure what to do next. I'm struggling with this "new" information, but I realize I have to put it out of my head for now...but I truly want to know if she's had an affair or slept with this guy because if she has, that's pretty much a deal-breaker for me.