Well, the carnival fish have passed. D3 was truly heartbroken, D6, not so much.
H called me at work tonight, complaining about a neighbor and her 'bad' treatment of D3. I don't believe a word (I believe D3 was probably sent home for a good reason, neighbor is a good friend of mine). H goes on and on about how no one on the street talks to him anymore (we live on a small court, close with all neighbors). I told him no one knows about us (except for my closest friend/neighbor), and that HE chooses not to talk with anyone. I don't want to tell any more neighbors until the girls know, but he doesn't believe me. It must be horrible to be the WAS, and think everyone hates them.
Its been that way for a long time, him thinking the neighbors are 'lame' and boring, because no one will go out with him at night. He was ridiculous. I wanted to tell him today that he is a very unattractive person to me. Everything about him feels wrong.
Between H, the fish, a 24 hour headache, I am ready to throw the towel in.
I was thinking to myself today, if I had the money, enough money, to get divorced and keep the house, would I file right now. My answer is YES.
(((lwb))). I know so many of us have been thinking of you. My H didn't bother to think about money when he filed, he just thought it would end the fighting.(His words). I still contend that if you don't bother to work on a situation the problem doesn't go away just because you file for divorce. Don't get me wrong I think you have been working, I was implying that my H hasn't. Puppy says that will continue to haunt him for a long time.
The worse time to do anything is when you are low. If you feel the same way when you are in a better place, fine. You need to feel content with your decision and then you will know that it is the right one. I am sort of the same place right now...do I help H divorce me or allow the judge to tell me what I have to do. Either way I am divorced and that is the last thing I want. I will keep praying for the best outcome for you. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Unhappy marriages don't cause infidelity. Being unfaithful causes infidelity.
Just read this from the article posted on this forum. So true, and I have to remind myself of this when H continues to list all the things I have done wrong and continues to not have remorse regarding OW.
