I think she wants to be friends

[sleeper]

It's amazing what you can learn by just reading your mail. I and W are now divorced (distant trumpets sounding, "tadaaaa").

Yes, since last Tuesday, exactly one week ago and W's birthday, we have been divorced. I told W the news on the phone, she wasn't even aware. The financial stuff isn't finished but we are divorced. What a truly confused state we live in.

Tell him what he's won, Jack.

Sure Bob, he's won matrimonial termination! That's right Bob, complete, final, total end of marraige! Legal in all fifty states, the District of Columbia and any Territory of the United States. This divorce is non-transferable and all fees and financial penalties ordered by the court are the responsibility of the holder. Equipped with California emissions

Back to you, Bob.

I am OK with this. I resigned myself to/accepted it some time ago. As proof I had a doctor's apt by coincidence this afternoon. My blood pressure was 114/70. That's better than when I was a junior in High School.

I think this has actually taken some pressure off of XW. Of course we have talked even more since this afternoon when I told her we were divorced. Once she had set this goal (divorce) for herself I think it took on a life of its own. She is much more relaxed now. I am interested to see what happens next.

"Having a thing is not the same as wanting a thing." (I can't remember who said that)