JAckie..thanks so much for your kind words..I am sorry for the sadness you are feeling..I don't think I have much to offer except my thoughts and prayers for you...I do know the feeling of having him answer so cold..I spent the last year like that..he was never mean and we did not fight or yell, but the coldness was sometime unbearable.Yet he would not talk about it, would not try and find a way to resolve it, except to move out..I know that is not what any of us want...but for us it has been the best thing to happen..it broke the cycle of being uptight all the time..gave us both space to work on ourselves..I am hoping that h will mayabe want to work on our m..but who knows.
Is your h open to sitting down together, without kids around and talking about the feelings that are going on?? DO you guys go to c? We did for a year, but it was not in my h heart to fix the m, so it did not good.
Maybe the 3 weeks apart will be good for both of you...time to think..how about a short talk before he leaves letting him know how hard this has been and hoping that the time apart will give you both some space to breath and think..I have learned not to make the conversations sound accusing or that it's his fault.
