Well I finally decided to chime in after reading all the other posts. I am in need of advice for my own situation. I will try to keep it short, but any advice would be great. Well I am here because me and my wife just recently got seperated. We have been married 8 years this September and been together for 12. We have a S6 and a D15(still trying toget used to these abbreviations). I guess you could saythe problems started a long time ago but I was to blind to the obvious what was happening. In the article WAW it describes me and my wife exactly. I guess I just gave up on trying in the relationship and treated her more like a friend with benefits as she put it. So when she told me on the friday before Easter I was shocked that she was that unhappy. Now that I realize that all the stuff she is talking was true and I see where I went wrong. Now that I understand that she was not just "nagging" to nag but she was really telling me there were problems and I failed to recognize them. So now I am struggling with how to deal with all of this and to help sae my marriage to the woman who means everything to me. I have started to work on me such as working out, getting out of the house and doing stuff and not being a hermit, and just overall trying to keep busy. I try not to get emotional but I always find myself breaking down and crying everyday, try not to in front of her and the kids but did slip one time and had a total breakdown. We do communicate everyday as I pick up my son and drop him off. I try not to hang out but she is always asking me if I want to stay and eat something or watch TV with my S. I usually decline and go about my ways. The other problem I have is that she constantly works into all hours of the night, and being how I am a full time student working nights she always wants me to come over to wake her up so she can finish work. This is where it gets confusing, everytime I do come over she tells me to wake her up in 15 minutes but wants me to lay next to her and hold her which I do. And she also wants to continue being intimate bu says it means nothing and to not read into it. I asked her why and she said I am the only guy she wants to be with. She also tells me that her heart just isn't into it anymore and she does not want to put herself back out there for her to be hurt all over again. I am going to stop here because I have to get ready for work, but if there are any questions I will be glad to help because I need all the help I can get to start saving my marriage.
