It is much easier to try these things, when the tension is gone.
I'm fine with not making a decision until the last minute. He is getting pressure from everyone else, so it isn't going to be me doing it. I know he has work to prepare for to go overseas and he is going to miss the boys. Plus, why am I pushing to go to something that I don't even want to go to? I'm nuts. I had plans pre-invitation to do an outing with a girlfriend I haven't seen in a few years, but we moved it to Sunday, so I'll be free to go if we do.
And the see-saw, I forgot about that, that is so true. This is a new pattern, me letting H make family type decisions, I always assumed that role.
BFL diet isn't overly hard, just some discpline. It is 5-6 meals a day, with one serving of protein and one of carbs in each meal. For me it is giving up the sugar and junk. But one day a week it is a free day and you can eat what you want. I just need to get to where I can follow it more than 4 days.
