Sleeper, I think you are doing OK. You sound more relaxed. I hope you are taking care of yourself.
I wish I could say the same for my situation. You are making progress. My guess is that many of us in similar timeframes are having our spouses feel the reality hititng.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D