If you and your H trust each other to not mind the occasional email from OW/OM, and know that it doesn't mean anything, then that tells me that you've both moved beyond any EA/PA.
But we DON'T know if Sara's H minds them or not. She has admitted that her H knows nothing about them.
Because of this, I hate to say, "secrecy", it makes me wonder just how detached Sara is from OM and the fantasy she held on to for 25 years.
It appears OM continues to occasionally give her an ego boost, and I wonder what that does to her emotionally, and how it might possibly affect the R she has with her H.
Last edited by GoingForward; 05/21/0812:46 AM.
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