Looks like you have to "earn" the right to be able to communicate with the OP. If both of you are not hiding anything and would be ok if he read your emails and you read his emails, then it must be ok. I don't see me ever being able to do that with the OM. We were so deep that any talks would be deeper than my H would be comfortable with. If he never saw them, I'd be ok with it once I'm in that stage and knowing that it would never go anywhere because the feelings are gone. But, after all that has happened, I now know that secrets are NOT GOOD, that it would be like playing with fire, and it would hurt my H.
Obviously, in the stage I'm in right now, the withdrawal, any kind of OM drug is a bad drug so No Contact will forever remain NC.
Thanks for sharing your story, Sara. I always wondered what the whole story was.
