Rob, yup, if you look hard enough there is a silver lining, it is just thinking to look. DB, 4th was good, but some problems, not with H, but with eating. Ellie-- I was doing great with BFL. Doing the journaling and planning and getting to the gym, even though it was difficult finding time to work out. But I found that if I did it, my whole attitude changed, I am focusing on something for me, my own goal and felt great about it. Then the 4th came and three different picnics with sugar foods and we were away all weekend, my exercise stopped and eating went through the roof. This takes so much planning, but it is worth it and I must get back on the horse.
Pam, how you had a great holiday. Sue--you are right, it is patience, not rushing these things.
Had a good holiday, except for falling off my program. We are over the funk. I worked on the positive reinforcement with H and slowly he came around and is now in pleasant mode, so I'm enjoying that.
We have a bit of an issue coming up. My SIL's family is throwing her a baby shower (H has only one sibling), I think we should go, they have always come to our stuff. We are the only ones other than ILs invited, so MIL will be throwing another one for H's side of the family after the twins are born. One thing that came up in MC is that I'm pushing for family functions when H doesn't want to go (H's family lives 2 hours away, mine 10, so aren't a whole lot of functions).
So after telling H my views (and his mother giving him a guilt trip), I told him I realized I'm doing it again, pushing for what I think is the right thing to do and not listening to what he wants to do (this is his last weekend here before heading to Europe for 3 weeks).
So, I've told him the decision is completely up to him. Of course everyone is getting upset because we haven't RSVP'd yet, and see me as the social secretary. I've just been telling them H is trying to see if he can swing it with his work load and waiting for his decision. God, all this about a dumb baby shower, but it seems to be a symptom of a lot of what I did wrong in the past, and started doing wrong again. My lips are now sealed about the thing. And secretly hoping we don't go! I don't even like the people!
